Why I Like to Adventure Alone

Why I Like to Adventure Alone

The word adventure is a great one. It’s a noun, as in ‘let’s go on an adventure!’, but it can also be a verb, and that’s the way that I like to use it: ‘I like to adventure alone’. To adventure can mean completely different things to every person, and that’s fantastic. It could be a grand expedition to climb Everest, or it could be visiting something that’s right on your doorstep. We all have a sense of adventure somewhere in our soul, and I for one think that it’s super important to hack into that sense, and adventure as much as possible in our day-to-day life. Many of you will know that I am living in Sydney with my boyfriend. We are a travelling couple, as although we are both from the UK, we met in the UAE, moved to Thailand together, before both coming to Australia. Although we live in the same room and spend lots of time together, we both also like to have our own lives, and the days off that I have when he is working gives me the essential time I need to adventure as much as possible. I suffer a little bit from travel anxiety, which means I stress over so many different things and often find my self imagining the worst possible scenario. When we were in Thailand, I took myself off to Ao Nang for a few days of me time, and I noticed something extraordinary. I didn’t get stressed, I didn’t get worried, and I didn’t fantasize about terrible things happening to me. I explored caves and climbed trees,...
Travel Anxiety – Why I Never Say Goodbye

Travel Anxiety – Why I Never Say Goodbye

Moving on from a location to adventure to pastures new is an incredibly exciting time. You don’t really know what lies ahead, but you can put money on the fact that you will create a bucket-load of new memories from one of a kind experiences. Obviously, with moving on to a new stage comes leaving the old stage behind. Although this can be quite refreshing, having to say goodbye to the places and people that you love is one of, if not the most difficult thing you will ever have to do. That’s why I never say goodbye. To quote my favourite story of all time: “Never say goodbye because saying goodbye means going away, and going away means forgetting.” (Peter Pan, in case you were wondering).   This is not to say that you would ever forget your friends and family, nor replace them, however I feel that the word ‘goodbye’ has a huge amount of finality and certainty to it, as if you were quite literally waving goodbye to the shore as you sail on to new horizons. On the other hand, for many travelling might be a form of escapism based on leaving an entire life behind for the better of themselves. If this is the case, saying goodbye with all of the finality it comes with is great – good for you. I imagine that most regular travellers have felt at some point that they were leaving a lifestyle for good, and the emotions that you feel cannot be explained. I personally felt this storm of emotion when I left the UK for the UAE...
Travelling in a Relationship is Best

Travelling in a Relationship is Best

When I left the UK it was for me. I was striding out alone to take on the world – I wasn’t going to have any boundaries, nobody telling me what to do, and I was doing everything for me. That all changed pretty quickly, as I met my (now) boyfriend fairly immediately and we decided to continue my adventure together, changing it to our adventure. Popular Opinion of Travelling in a Relationship If you search on Google for ‘travelling and relationships’, most of the results conclude that you have to make a choice between the two. It’s fair to say that a huge number of relationships break down due to the fact that one half wants to travel whereas the other doesn’t. It is also true that you shouldn’t have to give up a passion such as travelling for another person, as you will end up feeling like a caged bird. Travelling is such a huge lifestyle choice, and we all know that if you don’t get it, you just don’t get it. If you are in a relationship that makes you feel trapped, get the hell out of there and leave them behind! My Opinion of Travelling in a Relationship However, I am tempted to disagree with the general idea that you simply can’t travel in a relationship. Sure, it’s a completely different experience and you will have to sacrifice certain things: privacy, appearances, some finances, and the freedom to up and go when you feel like it are the first that spring to mind with me. On the other hand you get to experience the world...
Finding a Job After Travelling

Finding a Job After Travelling

I’ve seen plenty of posts explaining in great detail the heartbreak that one feels when returning to their origin post-travelling. When faced with returning to the monotony of everyday life, without regular injections of excitement and new experiences, it’s very easy to feel down-trodden and despair at what lies ahead. We end up counting down the days until the next trip, seeking solace in online forums and living vicariously through travel groups and social media – our timelines become riddled with #throwback posts. One thing that I haven’t heard much mention of is the difficulty in finding a job when you have been out of the country, economy, and market for so long. This is a problem that I faced when I returned from 18 months living, and working abroad. I put the term ‘working’ in bold, as that’s key for my situation and is probably relevant in many of yours as well. It’s not like we have spent our time lying on a beach and frolicking in the sun (OK, not all of the time), we work a full time job for all of our international time. However, when we return to our home countries to see the family with the idea of earning as much cash as possible, we are presented with rejection after rejection. I am not under-qualified. Not only do I have an undergraduate and postgraduate degree, but I also have experience in the hospitality, retail, and education sectors. It took me all of about 4 days to realise that degrees count for absolutely nothing when it comes down to finding a non-specialist job, and...
Reconnecting With Ghosts from the Past After Travelling

Reconnecting With Ghosts from the Past After Travelling

Everybody will agree that travelling is a fantastic and eye-opening experience. Nobody who has been on a long-term trip returns the same person. There is a long list of the benefits of travelling, and many of them link to the social experiences that you have. You make lots of like-minded friends, who you have a whirlwind friendmance with, before having to say goodbye. Through these experiences, your perception of ‘friendship’ often changes. You learn to appreciate those close relationships you’ve had in your lifetime, however fleeting they may be, and you also begin to understand that not all friendships need constant upkeep to remain real. This is something that I strongly believe in, and it has led me to try and reconnect with people from my past after travelling. It might be a simple Facebook message to test the waters (particularly if the friendship was not left in an amicable state) or it might be a bid to meet up for a real catch up. In many cases, this has been really successful and my messages have been met with a warm and eager reception. However, there have been a few that have not. The problem is, by making these moves I am assuming that the person on the other end of the line feels the same way. I assume that while I have been travelling, they have ‘grown up’ and gotten over the issues of our past in their own, stationary way. I also give them the benefit of the doubt by supposing that they have got over their own teenage issues with themselves. Many of those who...
Is Social Media Changing What it Means to be Friends?

Is Social Media Changing What it Means to be Friends?

Technology is a fantastic thing. It’s really opened up the world to us measly humans. Without technology, we wouldn’t be able to stay in contact with our families from the other side of the world. We would miss all events, we wouldn’t be able to tell our parents that we are safe, we wouldn’t be able to wish anybody a happy birthday. In fact, without technology, there would be no travel at all. That being said, I think it’s safe to say that technology doesn’t always have a positive effect on our lives. Nowadays, it’s really common to see children under 10 with their noses glued to an iPad or an iPhone, and this really breaks my heart! I grew up with limited technology; for me ‘games’ meant playing Lord of the Rings in the woods. There have been numerous scientific studies based on the idea of technology being a social blocker. A social blocker is an obstacle that gets in the way of normal social interactions. For most, this would mean talking face-to-face: having an in-depth conversation with another person, maybe over a hot cup of coffee. However, could the real problem be that the definition of social interactions is changing? No longer do we have to arrange a coffee date to catch-up with a friend, or iron out an argument. Getting the latest gossip or apologizing is now as simple as sending a text or an email. I recently saw the film ‘The Intern’ starring Robert De Niro and Anne Hathaway, which has a hilarious scene in which a young professional laments over the fact he is...