The word adventure is a great one. It’s a noun, as in ‘let’s go on an adventure!’, but it can also be a verb, and that’s the way that I like to use it: ‘I like to adventure alone’. To adventure can mean completely different things to every person, and that’s fantastic. It could be a grand expedition to climb Everest, or it could be visiting something that’s right on your doorstep. We all have a sense of adventure somewhere in our soul, and I for one think that it’s super important to hack into that sense, and adventure as much as possible in our day-to-day life.
Many of you will know that I am living in Sydney with my boyfriend. We are a travelling couple, as although we are both from the UK, we met in the UAE, moved to Thailand together, before both coming to Australia. Although we live in the same room and spend lots of time together, we both also like to have our own lives, and the days off that I have when he is working gives me the essential time I need to adventure as much as possible.
I suffer a little bit from travel anxiety, which means I stress over so many different things and often find my self imagining the worst possible scenario. When we were in Thailand, I took myself off to Ao Nang for a few days of me time, and I noticed something extraordinary. I didn’t get stressed, I didn’t get worried, and I didn’t fantasize about terrible things happening to me. I explored caves and climbed trees, I went on rickety little boats driven by crazy drivers, and I started to feel more and more like the child who grew up in rural England who spent all of her time outside.
This got me thinking about the times in the past when I have felt the sickening worry, and I realised that almost every single time, I wasn’t worried about bad things happening to me, but about bad things happening to the person that I am with. So, by adventuring on my own I remove that concern altogether.
Last week I went for a trek in the Blue Mountains, and it wasn’t easy. There were a whole load of steps and my legs went to jelly, however I found the ordeal hilarious. I kept catching myself smiling and laughing out loud to myself, because there was nobody there for me to complain to, so the negative thoughts had no way of getting out. So, when I adventure alone I don’t complain.
In Ao Nang, when somebody annoyed me (which was quite common in Thailand) I had nobody to share the annoyance with. I would catch myself before I got angry and think ‘don’t let this ruin your experience’, and that was that. My temper is hands down my biggest fault. It always has been, and although it’s improved over time, it still definitely puts me in terrible situations and often very nearly severs relationships. Yet by adventuring alone, I don’t get angry.
Again, in Ao Nang I had an issue with finding the hostel that I had booked. It was miles out of town and when I arrived it was nowhere to be seen. I was only wearing a bikini and a shirt so felt quite exposed, and many of the drivers passing by were catcalling me. I called my boyfriend who was in Bangkok, and relayed what was happening in a panic. His reply was ‘Oh dear, but what can I do about it?’. I realised that he had a point, and that nobody else could help me, so I got straight back on a bus and headed back into town to book another hostel. So, by adventuring alone, I don’t get panicked.
When I adventure alone, I witness amazing things that only I am interested in. I don’t have to share the experience if I don’t want to, I can spend as long as I want doing things, and these little moments I can keep to myself as my own secrets. When I accomplish things when adventuring alone, I feel proud of myself, because there was nobody there to help me along the way. I got myself to this point, and I can relish the moment. So, by adventuring alone, I am independent and proud.
I think that it’s pretty safe to say that adventuring alone makes me an all-round better person. I come back feeling happy, calm, and sated. Although I absolutely love spending time with my boyfriend and having our own adventures, I think that it’s important to find my own time for me.
Are you a solo traveller, or do you prefer to travel with other people? Is it your partner, or those that you meet along the way? Let me know, I would love to hear from you!