Ahh, traveller friends: those little chestnuts of hippy, happy, goodness that you will forever associate with having a ball. I think that it’s safe to say that we have all had that whirlwind friendmance (friendship romance) whilst travelling. You meet a person who you immediately click with, from your toes to your fingertips. You are so in sync and you just can’t quite believe it – are you sisters from another mister? Brothers from another mother? The only plausible explanation seems to be that you were separated at birth, long lost soul sisters or blood brothers. Then, before you know it, you have to go your separate ways, leaving a person shaped hole in your heart.
Home Friends Over Traveller Friends
Don’t get me wrong, friends that you have from your hometown or country are no less important than traveller friends, they are after all the ones who have seen you try to develop as a person. They might be the ones who were there through your awkward teenage years, when you were still trying to suss out what you considered cool. They might be university friends, there for the tough early twenties when every element of your life seems to be in an eternal state of ‘up in the air’. They are the sense of home, your roots, no matter how much you might want to deny them – I can think of friends who have experienced me in life periods that I would happily delete from my memory, however unfortunately they are immortalized forever more in their brains. You might not talk to them often, you might not have seen them in years, but that isn’t to say that you can’t pick up your friendship from where you left off. In the words of my lovely friend Lucy, “all you need to remember is that words come and go, actions change, time passes, and people move but the love I have for you stays in my heart and only grows, our memories are engraved in my soul and in my soul and my thoughts of you travel wherever in the world you are”. In the slightly less eloquent words of the counterpart of our trio, Naomi, “we’re all shit (me in particular)”. True friends will always be there, no matter what.
Traveller Friends Over Home Friends
On the other hand, that whirlwind friendmance that you experience with traveller friends that we spoke about earlier is as addictive as caffeine. It might just be that I am a highly emotional person (no kidding!) but I fall in love with people really quickly – I can hear the laughs of many friends who have had to fix my broken heart over the years. I don’t mean romantic love, but that adoration that comes from strictly platonic relationships between traveller friends. Often, you only have a few weeks together, so all of your will be eager to fit as much in as possible, which usually means hundreds of fun-filled memories condensed into a tiny nutshell of time. These experiences are exaggerated by the fact that you have an abundance of things in common with them – you travel, you love experiencing new cultures, you’ve run away from adulthood and societal expectations, you’re outgoing, you’re probably more than a little eccentric, you’re living on a budget, you want to dance barefoot in waterfalls… I love my friends from home, but I do wonder how many of them actually really crave this life deep in their souls. These friendmances will be short-lived, which means they rarely get to the stage where they could become sour. Any arguments or disagreements that you might have quickly dissolve when you are presented with the next exciting opportunity together. Once you have left each other’s company, you are only left with the fondest of memories of time together, that you will cherish forever. You may never see them again; they might come from the other side of the world. All you can hope for is that one-day your paths will cross again, which is a really magical and soul-enriching feeling. You don’t make false promises of keeping in contact over social media, as you know that those kinds of conversations will never replace the ones you had in person. You are just left with the prospect of magical future adventures together.
So what do you think? Are you closer to your traveller friends, or your home friends? Who do you have more fun with? What’s your fondest memory of time with traveller friends? Do you still keep in touch? Let me know!